Most mothers won't introduce you to their kids until you've established a solid relationship. It's important to establish a solid relationship with the children.

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While the age of the child plays a factor, if you’re not looking for anything serious, you shouldn’t play the “I’ll figure it out” game with a ready-made family.

Further, if you’re not a kid person or don’t want kids, you should not date a woman with kids to see if you’ll change your mind.

I have friends who have gotten upset because a woman they are dating has to drop everything for their child. A woman should not be placed in a position to choose between the child she loves and the man she likes.

If you don’t understand that, then you aren’t ready for this type of relationship and it is best if you do not bother wasting her time or yours. I’ve written on whether you need the baby’s father approval before — and for the record, no you do not.

However, there are a few things childless men should keep in mind when deciding whether they are ready to date a woman with a child, or children. Figure out if you like or want kids BEFORE dating a woman with children.

When you are single and looking to mingle, you generally will not hurt anyone if you start dating “just to see where things go.” Plenty of men do this all the time.

That doesn't mean you can't have a rewarding relationship with a woman and her kids.

It just means there'll be obstacles and roadblocks in addition to the normal stress of dating. A woman with kids may have a busy schedule with work and parenting duties.

Time for dating and getting to know someone can be somewhat limited.

Of course this isn't always the case, but in the early stages of dating a woman with kids, be prepared to play second or third fiddle. If there are any discipline problems with the kids, let the mother address the situation.

Save the games for the rest of the single people in the world who do not have the responsibility of looking out for the emotional well-being of themselves and their child. I’m always surprised at how few people discuss this topic upfront.